How to Deal with Heartbreak

Yes, our favorite subject to talk about. No one likes to deal with heartbreak, but it is something we all experience once, twice, or maybe about a thousand times. Everyone deals with heartbreak in various ways depending on how they deal with their emotions. Some people try to bottle it up hoping that it will go away and others just take it with a grain a salt and face it head on. Both ways have their unpleasant attributes ranging from completely turning their emotions off to feeling like there is no hope to finding love again.

Having been on both sides of the spectrum, I have found a happy medium. This is not my first time around the block and I have learned that each heartbreak differs. With that being said, I have come to the conclusion that being heartless does not make you stronger and being more emotional definitely does not make you weaker. There are multiple ways of getting over this funk and I will share some of the best steps that worked for me to overcome heartbreak.

Step 1: Just let it all out and have a good cry.

That includes boys going through heartbreak too. I found that there is no point to hold back the tears. Allow yourself to feel your emotions instead of avoiding them. I understand it is embarrassing when others see you cry, but this is about you. Make time to cry and let out the waterworks.

Step 2: Leave your ex alone.

This was probably the hardest pill to swallow. Constantly hitting up your ex with small talk will not help in the long run. Checking his/her social media accounts will not make it any better either. It just sets yourself up for more heartbreak. Continuously running back to your ex each time is like picking at a scab. How do you expect it to heal if it keeps getting reopened? Give yourself distance, trust the process.

Step 3: Treat yourself!!!!

My favorite part about dealing with heartbreak is chocolate. Also lots and lots of ice cream. Being dumped sucks, but having my favorite unhealthy snacks makes it suck way less. Invite your friends over and just go bananas with whatever your little heart desires. Having one night full of the desserts will not kill you, treat yo’ self.

Step 4: Find a new hobby or make time for your old favorite.

Since your schedule is a little bit more open now, do what you enjoy. One of my favorite hobbies is going to the gym to release the stressors in my life. There are a millions things to do that can help you get your mind off of things temporarily. Be selfish and do what you love to do and focus all your energy on that. You will find yourself not thinking about that certain someone as much and that means progress.

Step 5: Trust that time heals all wounds.

Pretty cliché, but time has not let me down so far. I would hate that people would say “give it time.” or “you’ll laugh at how you’re feeling when you look back months from now.” When heartbreak is fresh, minutes feel like hours, hours feel like days, and months feel like years. It sucks, but those minutes, hours, and months go by and you think, “Why was I ever tripping about that person?” Everyone has a different pace of healing, but you are the ultimate developer of when you are ready to heal.

And it is okay to not be okay all the time, it is all a part of putting yourself back together. Trust your heart and the sucky process. Until then, you should know that..