Ask Yourself: What Will My Life Look Like One Year From Today?
I’ll never forget the moment I was sitting on my living room couch, looking towards the blue sky outside the french doors. It was late Spring in 2013. And I was on a group coaching call with my mentor at the time.
I was in the middle of my training with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and Lisa, my mentor, was asking me about my goals would be for the next few weeks.
My shoulders shrugged lazily as I said, “I don’t know. I can’t really think of anything right now. Maybe I could eat more vegetables? Drink more water? Go to the gym?”
I could feel my throat close up as I was trying to fill the conversation…knowing that there were other people on the call who needed a chance to speak.
A year and a half before this moment I had made a conscious decision to make a change in my life. I didn’t like where my life was heading. Or how my body was feeling. Living on processed foods, relying on gas station cappuccinos for energy, and working in an office doing something I was good at…but hated.
So I started working out at the gym. Attended Yoga Teacher Training. Started to eat more nourishing foods. And begin my own business as a yoga teacher.
But when she asked me what my goals were, I completely went blank and my lack of clarity came bubbling up to the surface.
I felt like a little girl, wanting to say to her..”I don’t KNOW what I want. Stop asking me already!!!”
So I said “I plan to eat more vegetables..” and then silently hoped that the conversation would be over. I mean, when someone asks you what you want — the easiest answer as a woman should ALWAYS have something to do with how you look in a bikini, right?
Lisa paused for a moment on the other end of the line. With kindness, she said to me “That’s great! Now tell me, if you decide to change NOTHING at all, what will your life look like a year from now?”
I stopped and thought forward. To a year from that moment. If I kept going on the way I was, then what would I wake up and be one year from now?
My mind didn’t turn to how much weight I would gain. Or how I would look in a bikini the following summer.
Instead, my heart spoke and told me the truth.
It wasn’t about the food I ate. The way I exercised. Or what my health was.
The consequences of staying the same were much bigger than that…
You see, I realized that if I changed nothing at all — if I didn’t start writing and expressing myself, if I didn’t begin to follow my most heartfelt dreams, if I didn’t start to love myself and my life…
I would wake up someday and realize that I was filled with resentment. And deep down I would hate myself for never saying yes to myself. Yes to my heart. Yes to my life.
And 5, 10, even 15 years from now it would just snowball into something deeper and even more painful. I would wake up each day and quietly punish myself with food, with alcohol, with television, with gossip, with self-doubt and self-neglect.
For not taking time out for myself. For not following whims and wandering through the forest. For not booking that flight. For not finding my true tribe. For not writing that book. For not starting that dream business. For not making my art. For not changing the system. For not speaking up. For not being me.
I would be living a “half-life”. Controlled by my to-list (filled with things that mean NOTHING to me) and consumed by my regret of all the things I wanted to do.
“I should have, I could have…but I didn’t and it’s too late now”
That would be my motto. That would be the legacy my life would leave behind.
It was that day…that lovely Spring afternoon that I discovered that it would never be about the vegetables. It didn’t matter what I ate or didn’t eat.
What really mattered was how I lived.
So I invite you to ask yourself today. What will YOUR life look like a year from today, if you change nothing at all?
If you keep doing things the same way over and over. The same thoughts. The same friends. The same foods. The same beliefs.
Take a moment as be honest with yourself. No one else needs to read to hear your answer….What will your life look like if you change nothing at all and do you like what you see?
Then with a heart filled with hope and a mind filled with magic, I invite you to change 1 thing today.
Something you’ve been meaning to do….that makes you feel more like yourself and the woman you want to become instead.
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