Self Sabotage

There is something I used to do wrong for years.

I’m talking about self-sabotage and our seriously dysfunctional habits, also known as addictions, that we repeat even if it’s really bad for us.

It was nuts. No matter how motivated I felt when I set a goal or how much I thought it would make me happy, I would find ways to procrastinate or justify completely bailing on all my promises and aspirations for my life, and I had no idea why.

Can you relate?

That’s when I learnt the key difference between a goal, and an Inspired Goal, as well as the unfortunate link our subconscious mind sometimes makes between destructive behaviour and a “feel good” emotion causing us to repeat it even if we know it’s bad for us.

Today’s Stay Real With Amber is all about setting yourself up for success before you even think about setting a goal.

I’ll tell you the two reasons why we self-sabotage, and the two powerful mindset shifts that will stop it for good.

So if you have ever said the words “Why the hell do I keep doing this to myself?”, this episode is for you.

As mentioned, your addictions and sabotage are a result of incongruent or as I say, “uninspired” goals.

Todays #StayRealWithAmber is:

If it doesn’t inspire you, you will find a way to avoid it.

If your life is based on a false belief system about what job you should have, what body you should sculpt or what relationships you should be in, you are going to sabotage forever.

The unconscious part of our brain is pretty sticky. So make sure you take it easy on yourself when changing behaviours and trying on a new way of thinking.

It is okay to make a mistake or change your mind and shift your direction regularly; in fact it takes balls to say “I don’t want this anymore, I am going another way now”.

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

Have you ever found yourself being incongruent? What have you done before to stop yourself sabotaging?

Don’t be shy with your comments, please give your feedback below now. Your story may just be what someone else needs to have a breakthrough.

Self-sabotage is something that can affect us all. Please pass this along to your closest colleagues, clients and friends — anyone you think could use a little extra support as they work on creating a life that energises and inspires them.

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