As a woman of color, I’ve come to rely on straight white men telling me my experience of the world has nothing to do with my gender, race or class. (Unless something good happens to me, in which case they tell me my gender, race and/or class is exactly why that thing happened.)
…and they don’t like to be marketed and sold to. So “don’t be gross” started as our internal mantra. It’s a promise to make all our marketing useful and solutions-oriented. We focus on the value of what we create, and in turn the value it can create for our users.
White men are given free reign when it comes to doing whatever the hell charms them because they are seen as human and fallible. Black men are automatically depicted as criminals with the uncanny tendency for being unsuited for the requirements of a civilized existence.
ike Moonl…s that it “barely has 10 minutes of plot,” which completely misses the point that guides Moonlight: black queer lives are shaped by the intersecting oppressions that haunt our identities. Our futures are determined by how our families receive us and how the state perceives us. Fragmentation is found where the state has denied us freedom, and emptiness is found where our loved ones have been too broken down to understand us and our schools too lazy to protect us. If it doesn’t feel as though Moonlight is driven by plot, it’s because the ability to define your life in a way mainstream white film reflects is a privilege not often afforded to people like Chiron. No film has ever articulated the reality of the most disenfranchised black, queer people like Moonl…
… advances in a way that won’t hurt the man’s feelings. And, that sounds reasonable on first glance. However, unfortunately, honest communication of the feelings “I am not sexually attracted to you” is considered hurtful to most men. So, women are forced to not communicate their honest feelings in order to protect the man from feeling anything bad.