Hi Vanessa! I appreciate the feedback, thank you. I understand it can be triggering for someone to invade your space, I have certainly been there too. And in this case, when it turned sexual, my boundaries were definitely crossed, though I chose to stay present and see where this man’s energy was attempting to go. It was risky, for sure. But until I left the pool and he followed me out, I felt safe. To me, massaging someone’s feet is not an invitation for sex. Which is why communication is paramount! It’s bizarre to me that someone (a stranger to boot!) would think it’s OK to turn an interaction sexual without it!! So I felt it was important to detail all the nuances, and really try and identify the choices I made which entangled me in a way that, ultimately, I didn’t want. Which I think is OK. We should be allowed to say ‘yes’ (or more like ‘maybe’ in this case), and then ‘no’. Continual consent is crucial, and it’s this level of constant awareness that I hope we can all practice in relation to each other! Call me a dreamer… :)
