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“Can You Fix Me?” I Get Asked This All the Time and This is What You Need to Know
As a mentor and writer of now over a thousand popular online articles about mental health and wellbeing, I constantly receive messages and emails that are a variation of the same question. That question being…
“Can you fix me?”
I have anxiety, how do I fix it and make it just go away? I lost someone and feel sad, how do I just stop it. I want to feel good and normal like everyone else, tell what I do? You are my last chance, there is something wrong with me, tell me how to just make it right!
I am deeply flattered that my work touches people to the extent they think I have a magical power and can instantly fix them. And trust me, I wish I did have that power. Not least as I would then be a billionaire. But also as the thing that keeps me going, that makes me feel most alive, is, indeed, helping others.
But I don’t have that power.
And the truth is that it wouldn’t actually do you or anyone else any good if I did.
But there is someone who can ‘fix’ you
You see here’s the thing. It’s not that I don’t have a lot of incredibly useful information to share that can help you fix yourself. But did you hear what I just said?