I AM NOT A FEMINIST
Owing to my Profession, and my occasional ‘didn’t-see-it-coming-powerful-expressive-Style’, (in writing and apparelling ), I have sometimes, been addressed by the unwanted sobriquet ‘Tomboy’.
Don’t get it twisted though!
I am in touch with my femininity!!
Very, very much so!!!
As much as I strongly advocate for gender equality, I am not however, a feminist!
My equality emphasis remains solely on mental capacity.
Equal mental expectations in all areas; including, but not limited to academics and (most importantly) the work environment, no matter the profession.
DO NOT EXPECT LESS FROM ME IN MY PROFESSION.
RATE YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF ME WITH MY LEVEL OF EXPOSURE, NOT MY GENDER.
DO NOT EXPECT LESS OF A WOMAN IN THE MENTAL REALM.
Not only is that a terrible mistake to make, it is also very annoying to the womenfolk.
God! it’s so irksome to see or experience first-hand, that classic case of gender inequality at work place.
Once, I was freshly recruited along with some other guy, as a system analyst in a private firm.
Now, for the first, real-life practical exposure, this other guy was chosen, NOT me.
That just infuriated me out rightly!
Especially because I knew for a fact that, I’d catch up faster than him (as deduced from the few tete-a-tetes I’ve had with him).
Everyone who’s had a conversation with him must have deduced that fact as well.
Yet, he just had to be the first one to go.
Again, do NOT expect less of us just because we are ladies.
It however, didn’t take them long to realise how gravely, utterly, and terribly, wrong they had been.
Must have come as a shock, the moment it was realised he had to be laid off, barely three months on the job… (I wasn’t shocked! )
There has got to be a word for that.
There is an urgent need to recognise that, for some of us ladies (if not most), that is where the equality stance stops!
There exists, that boundary, yes.
I for one would very much like to have a guy open the door for me to waltz in; For him to offer me lunch… heck, even offer to foot the bill.
You know…, them little social-defined etiquette… the whole shindig; all that being a gentleman entails.
If like me, you want all of that, (’em social-defined etiquette) from a man?
Then, you are not a feminist!
A true feminist, in my own opinion has got to be a lesbian (forgive the extremity).
But then again, it’s only my opinion.