Letting Go

Amritha Shakti.
Aug 26, 2017 · 4 min read

Hi Friends,

I wanted to share a little lesson I’ve learnt over the past few weeks with you — as you may know, I am a huge fan of the late Wayne Dyer (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfT8Ts6wPFs), and I listen to him almost every day. I love his work because he shares ideas on how to pursue your goals but also maintain a strong spiritual connection with God/Love/whatever higher power you might believe in. Note — he is completely agnostic, so I’m not purporting for any particular religious or spiritual path here. Read on!

Ever since I’ve started studying his teachings, one thing has really stood out to me as being a ‘game-changer’: letting go.

There is a section in Wayne Dyer’s work in which he refers to how we all spent 9 months in the womb and everything magically worked itself out. Our noses formed, our hearts started beating, our lungs came into being. We completely surrendered to the higher power at that point . But the moment we came into being, the moment we started growing older, we suddenly turned our back on that ‘Faith’ that we had in our higher selves, and we started analysing. We started worrying, and we wanted to plan everything and take control over every minute detail in our lives.

And when things didn’t quite go to plan — which is, let’s face it, almost all the time, almost always — we lost our shit, we spiralled into anxiety attacks, we gave up our joy.

This resonated with me — because I plan almost everything. And when things don’t go to plan, it used to crush me. I worried about almost everything — I would literally worry myself sick sometimes.

And then I realised — if we had to think about this completely rationally, it just makes no sense:

1) Worrying has NEVER in the past led to a better outcome or even in any way influenced the outcome of external events in my life — so why was I still doing it?

2) I think ‘worry’ was my response to feeling ‘powerless’ in a situation — worrying felt like I was taking some form of (mental) action in a situation in which I had no power. In some insane way, perhaps we have learned that if we are not thinking about an issue 24/7, it means we don’t care and we cannot influence it. But the reality is, over-analysing an issue can only bring misery — and illness.

3) I was tired and mentally drained — each day I would go to bed feeling exhausted after all the mental energy I had spent planning, worrying, trying too hard to control everything around me — I wasn’t living, I was ‘over-engineering’ my life.

So that’s when I started to take Mr. Dyer’s advice, and I practised letting go.

I started small first — an argument with my Mother, and while every part of me wanted to scream and yell back and do something, anything; I just bit my tongue, and the moment passed smoothly. Looking for freelance clients — I had reached out to as many people as I could one day across 4–5 different platforms, and it was only lunchtime. My brain was in overdrive and pleaded that I spent the rest of the day doing something, anything, to feel like it was in control. “Maybe we could endlessly scroll through LinkedIn for the 10th time and something might appear?” it asked. And a week or so ago, I would have yielded. But I quietly closed my laptop and took the next 4–5 hours off, basking in the sun and writing.

When I returned, 2 clients had responded back to me, and I was feeling calm and at peace.

And so I’ve continued ‘letting go’ the last few weeks. Just on little things — waiting in line at the supermarket and not getting impatient; messaging someone I care about and not checking a million times until I heard back (seriously, those ‘Seen’ icons are the worst); sending that important email to a client and not spending 2 hours at my laptop in anxiety wondering what might happen.

Just letting go. Just doing my part calmly, completely and in peace, and then completely letting go.

It’s been a game-changer and I cannot even begin to describe the changes I’ve seen in my personality as a result — I’m so much more patient, calm, and I have so much more mental space to think positive thoughts and be in joy, and even come up with amazing creative ideas for my music and beyond.

In a world that is built on insecurity and the desperate need for control, this could be a game-changer.

Here’s a link to a few Wayne Dyer videos that really sparked this change for me:

  1. Wayne’s beautiful spiritual talks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HoEEE70G2jQ&t=2955s
  2. Wayne’s positive thinking advice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Y6aczHhrU8&t=550s
  3. Wayne’s wisdom for every day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MhHgMfcCnsQ&t=663s

I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts!

As always with Love,

A. x

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