I was speaking with my good friend Bryce Roberts yesterday about blogging. We both agreed that often we feel inspired to cover a topic and we sit at our keyboards until the idea is on the screen. Some days we nail it, others we think “meh” but in either case we hit publish and move on.
…writing this in case some girl needs to hear this, from someone who’s lived what they’re living: Fuck what Erykah said. Wear what you want, wear the shorts, wear a turtleneck, wear the dollar store lip gloss, wear the leggings, wear the heels. Wear what makes you feel beautiful. Wear what makes you feel safe. For your own comfort. For you. Men are responsible for their actions/attractions/nonsense. Not you. Never you. Not at all. It is not on you to make it “easier” for them to resist violating you. It has nothing to do with what you look like. It has everything to do with overpowering you. Keep the power you can. You deserve power over your body. There is no one to be considerate about concerning your body but you.