You are missing the point in a fantastic way.

A lot of the anger is coming, not from the fact that Lexa died — we know there is a show where “people die,” although characters like Jasper can survive poison spears, but whatever — but HOW she died.

Lexa was Heda. She was a warrior queen. She was making decisions that were unpopular with her people. She could have died defending the coalition. She could have died in battle. She could have died in a situation she walked in to knowing and accepting that she could die. She could have died with some agency. At the very, very least, she could have thrown herself in front of that bullet. At minimum.

Instead, you took a character whose story arc essentially boiled down to “is it okay to be in [gay, since she was gay] love.” Something that thousands of queer women have asked themselves. And the answer here, was a big, fat, “No.” Because no matter what your “intent” was, what happened is that Lexa woke up from her post-coital nap, opened the door, and was killed. What happened was that this could theoretically have been avoided if Clarke had left for Arkadia and not stopped for sex, because she would have missed Titus altogether. She would have been alive if she had not loved Clarke.

And sure, she wasn’t technically killed for being gay. But Titus’s rampage rings much truer to the gay experience (You’re corrupting her!! She would be totally normal and safe if it wasn’t for you!!) than the straight one.

Also, given how this show tends to treat minorities, with the most racist characters being the people of color (such as Indra, Jaha, Pike, now Bellamy,) and the white characters being the enlightened ones who Just Want To Make Peace, such as Kane, Clarke and Lexa, and the way that minorities are killed vs non-minorities (remember when you killed Wells for the sake of a one-episode plot arc, but gave Finn’s death an entire episode of people willing to forgive his mass murder of innocent brown people?) I’m not buying your argument that it “doesn’t matter what color you are.” This show has made it incredibly clear that it DOES matter. Both in how you live and how you die.