What Are You Saying Yes Too?
I’m overwhelmed, just like 99.9% of you reading this article. I bet you are constantly wishing you had more time, less responsibility, more money and more freedom.
As hard as I try to manage my time, money and responsibilities I always seem to fall into the trap of being too busy.
I’ve heard all the advice about learning to say no, and know that the advice is 100% right. You have to learn to say no to keep your life in check.
My problem is that I’m a nice person. I want to help people and do the right thing. I’m very non confrontational and I hate being that person who disappoints people, so saying no is hard for me.
Recently I began realizing that my issue was more then just learning to saying no. In order for me to say no I needed something worthwhile to do instead.
Saying no isn’t as hard when you have something else already scheduled and other important things going on in your life.
So instead of focusing on the no part, I needed to start reassessing what I was saying yes to.
What was a choosing to focus on instead?
I needed to learn what I was going to say yes too!
Follow me here because it is kind of complicated and seems counter intuitive. Why would I say Yes, when my real problem is saying No?
What I realized is that I needed to learn to say yes to the things that really matter to me.
By saying yes to the things that really matter to me, I’m filling my life with the good things I want to focus on, rather then all the random junk I struggle to say no too.
It is a whole lot easier to say no, when you’re schedule is already full.
I’m not going to lie and say it was easy, it is really hard to put yourself first sometimes when you’ve been programmed to constantly put yourself last.
So this past week, I’ve focused on only saying yes to the things that bring me joy.
Last week I signed my daughter up for dance lessons. In the past, I’ve struggled to find time, but decided that this was one of the things that I wanted to prioritize for her.
It is such a little thing, but as I watched her try to dance (she is only 2 1/2) and saw the joy in her eyes I was reminded yet again that I need to focus on the yes things in life instead of the no things in life.