Amy Torres
Aug 28, 2017 · 1 min read

Un-offend-ability. I like that. As a journalist and psychotherapist, I’ve learned from experience that nothing is personal! Not only does this discovery increase one’s self-confidence, it also removes unnecessary feelings of guilt.

For instance, you might be offended if I called you “Ben” rather than “Benjamin.” You might correct me with attitude, “Benjaaaaminnn.” The moment of truth is, do I believe I offended you? Or can I discern that you felt offended? Actually, I cannot offend you. Feeling offended is your choice. As a former codependent (who tend to live in a chronic state of self-doubt and self-blame), this is emotionally liberating! I am relieved of feeling guilty about something that is not my responsibility.

Also, if you’re not easily offended, chances are you choose to be trusting rather than mistrustful. So if someone shortens your name to “Ben,” you’re likely to feel the affection in that, and express your preference for “Benjamin” in a non-snarky tone :)

Un-offendability is also pure humility ❤ “Un-offendable-ness” is the result of emotional maturity. When you know you’re valuable, but don’t need to be important, you have no high horse to fall off. You’re un-offendable :)

Perhaps, Eleanor Roosevelt put it best:

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Amy Torres

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