HOW TO BE YOU: 5 STEPS

Alright guys, how do you do you when the world wants you to do them?

Here’s 5 simple steps that I know can help in this sort of dilemma.

1. DON’T HESITATE // If we want to be true to who we are, we need not hesitate to do something. Fighting yourself on whether or not to post the picture? Taking career advice from others over what your heart tells you? Following along with the crowd because you’re too afraid to stand out? I’d be lying if I didn’t say I have stressed about every one of these things. But how do you expect to be true to you when you’re hesitant of what others are going to think?

If you like the picture post it. It’ll define who you are. How you view life and the world. It’ll give you definition and personality. Nobody should have control over that. If you feel strongly about pursuing something, pursue it and pursue it now. The longer you wait the more reasons you’re going to have not to follow through with it. Everyone has their own opinions. Different opinions. Because everyone is different. So rather than listening to someone’s opinion of something, listen to your heart. It will always lead you in the right direction. And that’s a fact. Afraid to stand out or stand up for yourself? Get off that train quick! There’s nothing more unhealthy than feeding your mind fear. Feed it faith. Feed it courage.

DON’T HESITATE TO BE YOU.

2. DON’T LOOK BACK // The second you make your decision to do something is the very second you’re going to try to convince yourself not to. We tend to be really good at talking ourself out of things. And this day and age makes it so much easier to erase what we’ve done. At the click of a button we can delete the picture. At the click of a button we can cancel the purchase. But don’t be afraid. The real you has already made her choice. Somebody else wants you to make a different one.

DON’T LOOK BACK ON YOUR DECISIONS.

3. OWN IT // Confidence is most definitely key. The truth is, it does’t really matter what you do. If you have confidence in what you’re doing, people will respect you for it. It may not be their thing. It may not be something they would ever pursue. But it’s what’s right for you. Trust in that. Norman Vincent Peale once wrote, “Believe in yourself. Have faith in your abilities. Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” The best way to be you is to be proud of who you are.

OWN IT WITH PURE CONFIDENCE.

4. DELIGHT IN UNIQUENESS // It’s okay to have role models. It’s okay to have people in your life that you look up to and aspire to be like. But with that said, you don’t have to BECOME them. Be inspired by them, that’s fine. But don’t copy. There is not one other person on this planet that is exactly like you. Out of the 7.125 billion people in the world, you are the only one that is YOU! Own that with confidence. What did we just talk about? ;) You will never be recognized in a pile of people who all look, act, and dress the same. So find what makes you different from the rest and be ready to stand out. Find joy in that.

DELIGHT IN BEING UNIQUE.

5. BREAK UP WITH UNHAPPINESS // Last but not least: The real you can only be happy if you’re true to yourself. In order to be you, you have to be content with who you are and where you’re heading. If you find that having social media is too stressful, break it off. Or at least take a break for a little while. If you are surrounded by people who are going quickly in a different direction than you are, don’t follow them any longer. If you have too many things, sell them. If the movies you watch, the music you listen to, or the people you talk to are feeding you negative vibes, break up with them. There is no need to hold on to things that are pushing you away from who you’re striving to be. Take a deep breath and do it now, and you will thank yourself for it later.

BREAK UP WITH WHAT’S NOT FOR YOU.

So there you have it. How to be you in just 5 steps! Stick to these things and the you inside of you is going to love you a whole lot more.

Xo, Ames