Why We Should Stop Being So Hard on Ourselves
A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval (Mark Twain)
Sometimes we have the tendency to judge ourselves pretty hard and to expect more things from us that we never even hope other people would do. Trying to be better is important, but criticizing and blaming ourselves for things we have no control over is not the best way to become a better person.
Holding ourselves to high standards makes sense since we live in a world where perfect images of people are promoted everywhere. But we have to remember that there is no such thing as perfection and trying to be or beat “the images” might lead us to nothing else but frustration.
We Are Human, and We Make Mistakes
If we lived in a perfect world, we would probably know how everything works before we do it. However, we have no idea and sometimes, even though we struggle, we make mistakes. Being wrong in certain situations is not the end of the world, and when it happens, we should concentrate on the good parts of the situations. If there are no good parts, which is impossible, being aware of the mistake and trying not to repeat it is the best option.
Judging ourselves will make us feel useless, frustrated, incompetent, and it might keep us away from becoming who we can be. On the other hand, being better next time will help us build our confidence.
Concentrate on Progress, not Perfection
As I said before, we are hit in the face with thousands of images of perfect women and men who can manage doing everything right and looking perfect. Well, there are people behind them and in reality they are just like us and, as I told you and I will probably tell you again, there is no perfection.
This is why, we should all concentrate on progress, our personal one. We should never compete with famous people and not even with those around us. Competing with ourselves and trying to grow is what we must do.
Regrets Stop Us from Moving Forward
Staying in the same place makes us feel discontented, and we all want to grow and develop but thinking about the past and regretting our previous actions won’t let us move forward.
All of us could have done better at some point, but nothing can be changed even if we spend hours thinking about it. Instead of that we should being concentrating on who we are and who we are becoming.
Most of us tend to forget to live in the present and appreciate who we are because we spend so much time concerning about the mistakes in the past or being nostalgic, as well as fearing the future.
Focusing on our future is important and necessary, while we are living our present and loving our own person, as much as we enjoy others. This means that we should forgive ourselves just how we forgive the people close to us who make the same mistakes, or even worse. We say, “ they’re human. It’s normal to be wrong from time to time”. It should be just as easy when it comes to our mistakes, too.
Enjoy Life with All the Ups and Downs
As teenagers say nowadays, we only live once, meaning “ Carpe that bloody Diem”. So, even if we don’t have it together all the time, or we don’t know all the answer we can at least try to enjoy our live and ourselves.
We might not always know who we are and what we are supposed to do but, if we stop judging ourselves, we could have time to learn more from our mistakes. This way, instead of becoming frustrated we could be happy and enjoy progressing.