Childhood coping mechanisms don’t always work on adult problems — Years ago, I was a broken shell of a person. A child really. When my husband and I met, I was still adjusting to the traumatic loss of my father a few years prior. When I was 14, my dad had a massive heart attack while working. …

A year and a half later — Just like the Eminem song says, “When it's going good, it's going great. But when it's bad, it's awful.” It's good…for now. Work is insane for me right now (not to mention, I hate it) so I’m pursuing another full-time position. I am currently trying to juggle three other side…

What happens when a cheater meets another cheater? — A co-worker invited me to her place for an informal get-together this weekend. My husband and I aren't “people” people, but after canceling two previous times, I felt as if I couldn't, or at least shouldn't, make it a third time. While not very close, my co-worker and I have…

A few of my favorite poetry pieces about infidelity

Insecurities and infidelity go hand in hand — When someone cheats, most ask themselves the inevitable: Was I not good enough? Did I not show him enough affection? Did I do something wrong? Was I not enough? If you answer those questions honestly, you can probably pinpoint something, inadvertent or not, that may have led to pushing them…

In the moment of heartbreak — When my world came crumbling down, I watched it fall without a sound. I felt every piece of me fall away. I fell silent. There was nothing to say. While he broke me with his words, My silence was all he heard. Little to no reaction, physically I went numb. …

The anxiety never really goes away — I know that sounds pretty damn dramatic, but hear me out. If you have ever been cheated on you will do anything in your power to never let it happen again. Regardless of how hard you fight it, the fear of it happening again never really subsides. After infidelity, you…

Looking back at the broken foundation — As I think back over the last 11 months of our infidelity journey, I’ve realized that many things are different. I am not the same person I was back then and neither is he. Redefining our marriage as well as ourselves has been difficult. With extreme highs, lows, and contradictions…

The same red flags with a different outcome — I sound like a broken record, but healing from infidelity isn’t fluid. There are emotional ups and downs and everything in between. It has been almost a full year since my husband cheated. The emotional damage still stings when those tiny red flags start popping up. My husband is an…