I also really liked what another poster said, that the more stories like these are published, the less binary the world becomes. I am a ciswoman by definition but not by identification, and I don’t know how to come to terms with that nor do I know what it means. I don’t talk about it or think about it too much because the evidence is against me, but I also don’t know what that means. So I get that you just want to be you, whatever you may be, and you don’t necessarily want to subscribe to a group that fits you best because that is also not really you. Like, how you kept asking yourself “are these my people?” I don’t know. And I totally understand and respect that being just who you are might be the best way to become who you want to be.