Maybe men are sick of being objectified for what the author really means when she says loser:
That’s what it comes down to. If she wants a rich man then she should just come out and say “I want to date a rich man” or “I want to date a man who has made work and money a priority in his life”.
If that’s what you want — that’s fine. But call it what it is.
There are definitely men out there who focused on those things to attract women. That bad news for the author is that she’s 25 years too old to attract those men.