You are infected with the antsy mindset.
I’m sure you are still a proponent of the old belief that productivity is about doing. All day, you are obsessed with doing things, with talking, with emailing, with clicking from browser tab to the next. This behavior will lead you to success — that what you learned in childhood and through schooling. Success is that very thing that is innate to you.
But what if success is just a hollow idea? Who defined success? Why do you feel it is so important? What happens when you don’t achieve it? And what happens when you realize it wasn’t worth all your effort?
Doing things comes at a cost: You get worrisome thoughts, anxiety, constant feelings of uncertainty, and you lose peace forever. And balance is a myth.
Imagine yourself sitting in four chairs at a time. Hopefully, you succeed in this and a small part of your ass is on every chair. Balance! But do you feel comfortable and relaxed? You must accept one thing: To be successful, you have to put aside one of your chairs. And to be highly successful, you must put aside at least two. Life is filled with choices. If you want to have success in your career and your family, then your friends and hobby will suffer. You absolutely can spread your focus and time across each of the four areas, but then you must accept the fact that you’ll never reach your full potential in any of the four.
Now make a choice whether you balance or succeed in a chosen area. Remember, sometimes too much action is worse than no action at all. Sometimes you can get many things done during a day, a week, or a month — but none of them were important.
Whether you want more health, more wealth, more love, more freedom, or more impact, it all comes down to your choices.
The great Sufi poet and philosopher Rumi once advised his students to write down the three things they most wanted in life. If any item on the list clashes with any other item, Rumi warned, you are destined for unhappiness. Better to live a life of single-pointed focus, he taught.― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love