Stop worrying

Everything is OK in the end. If it’s not OK, then it’s not the end.

Our hectic lives establish conditions ripe for failure. Just lazy people don’t talk about achieving success, higher career status, being more wealthy or more famous. Every day, the mass media all over the world plays up this very idea. At the same time, psychologists talk about the growing percentage of people with chronic worrying status.

Chronic worrying is a mental habit (just a habit). Disclaimer: I’m not talking about people who have any actual mental disorder. Stop worrying. You can break your worrying habit. You can train your mind to stay calm and look at life from a more positive perspective. And you already know how.

Stop arguing with reality. The Dalai Lama said: “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” It’s simple: If you can’t stop worrying, then start acting. Take small steps, and do whatever you can do. Remember, 99% of the things you worry about never happen. And even if the worst of them does happen, chances are you’ll handle the situation better than you anticipate.

Accept uncertainty. You never know what’s around the corner! It’s normal. But your intolerance to uncertainty plays a huge role in your worrying. For chronic worriers, their worrying seems like a tool to somehow predict the future — a method for preventing unpleasant surprises and controlling events. But in reality, that doesn’t work.

Decide. The best way to stop your worrying is to take a certain position and act. The value of arriving at a decision is enormous. You’ll find more than half of your worries disappear as you come to a clear and definite decision. And as you start executing your decision, all your worries will disappear. The more action you take, the calmer your mind will be.

Don’t negate happiness. You deserve it. It is your birthright. An age-old cultural belief gave you a horrible “bug.” You believe that you must earn your happiness. You need to swallow work you don’t like, and whatever pain you feel. You should be humble. But what’s the end game here?

How can a person deal with worry? You might try what one fellow did. He worried so much that he decided to hire someone to do his worrying for him. He found a man who agreed to be his hired worrier for a salary of $200,000 per year. After the man accepted the job, his first question to his boss was, ‘where are you going to get $200,000 per year?’ To which the man responded, ‘That’s your worry’.― Max Lucado

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