Your garbage articles harm me and all date rape victims who are further traumatized by people like you calling our suffering a “bad date". Where is your goddamn heart? You obviously know nothing of trauma and the FREEZE response that rape victims most commonly have. I was raped in a similar way that Grace was. Grace put up more resistance than I did actually. In fact, I just laid there and even played along with my own rape (the term for this is compliance) praying for it to end soon.
When a man larger and stronger than you just starts kissing you and removing your clothes (yes rapists assume their victims want it because they are narcissists) YOU DON’T RESIST. YOU DON’T SAY NO. Because rapists become violent in response to rejection. That’s why I played along the entire time hoping to come out of it UNSCATHED.
Go ahead, tell me I wasn’t raped. I dare you to blame me.
Grace survived. I survived. And we don’t need hateful monsters shaming us for doing what we knew deep down was the safest course of action.
Guess what? I saw 3 psychologists who told me what I had experienced was unequivocally RAPE. And I was diagnosed with Rape Related PTSD due to all my symptoms.
To this day I suffer severely from the horror of that rape.
But particularly it is victim blaming misogynists like you who have exacerbated our suffering.
This is egregious rape victim blaming. This is the opposite of what mental health professionals and rape crisis organizations say. THE BURDEN IS ON THE INITIATOR to make sure he gets clear unambiguous consent.
Otherwise it’s simple: YOU KEEP YOUR FUCKING HANDS TO YOURSELF and don’t pursue the sexual activity. It is so simple and you are finding all these ways to romanticize and complicate and put the blame on rape victims.