Such a fantastic description and take on this. Have you encountered a similar idea elsewhere? I’m really interested fleshing this out more. I’ve wondered the exact same thing for decades, but couldn’t figure out what the problem was… or what at least this part of the problem was, nothing is ever cut and dry with emotional issues. But after my last relationship with a man ended I felt so much better about myself (AGAIN), and this totally nails the problem there- and with probably 80% of my relationships with men. And why women have maybe triggered those feelings for me only 20% of the time.