We do serious lists in my family, so when I got married, I implemented lists in my in-laws family as well. My MiL still goes off script and gets me jewelry that I will never wear because it’s not my style, but I know I’ll at least like/want a couple of things that she got me because the list was there. They more or less refuse to give us lists? But I improvise and so far have done pretty well! My mom is concerned on how my brother’s girlfriend *soon to be fiancee* will react to the list thing, like it’s a big deal or something? Lists forever.