Actually, I am East Asian or Southeast Asian, but that distinction doesn’t really matter to anyone here.

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Hello, or should I say, Ni Hao.

I am an Asian Woman on your favorite white-run sitcom. Actually, I am East Asian or Southeast Asian, but that distinction doesn’t really matter to anyone here.

You might find me wearing lingerie, lounging in bed with my lover. He is a nerdy white man you would never expect to land a hot sex kitten like me.

I’m the cold, stoic new girlfriend of your favorite character’s father-in-law. I don’t smile. Ever.

I’m the random woman your second favorite character picked up at the bar to get over the white woman he’s meant…

‘To All the Boys I Loved Before’ may be a love story, but it also is a much-needed representation of transracial Asian adoptees, too

A photo still from the Netflix movie “To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before” that shows Lara Jean and Peter at a diner.
A photo still from the Netflix movie “To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before” that shows Lara Jean and Peter at a diner.
Photo: Netflix

In a pivotal scene in Netflix teen rom-com To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before (TATBILB), 16-year-old Lara Jean sits in a diner staring down at a photo of her dead mother while her father tells her stories about her mother’s favorite music and how she loved to dance right there in the diner’s aisles. Emotional, Lara Jean tells him she didn’t know those things about her mother. While this scene would move anyone with a beating heart, it struck a particular chord with me. I remember reading about my birth mother from a government document, which, as a Korean…

What are genetics, exactly, when we are adopted?

Illustration by Carmen Johns

The first time I try to tell the future, I am 8 years old. I sit with friends around a table in the cafeteria and we make lists of the types of places we’ll live (mansion, apartment, shack) and the men we’ll marry (a who’s who of 90’s Hollywood heartthrobs) and the number of children we’ll have (zero never seems to be an option). We take turns drawing tally marks with our hand cupped around our pencil until the person whose fortune is being told yells stop. Then we count up each list, stopping on the number that matches the…

Andrea Ruggirello

Andrea’s writing appears or is forthcoming in Gay Magazine, Zora, Hobart, Electric Literature, Catapult & more. She recently completed a novel.

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