HOOOOOOBOY I have a lot to say about this. your initial premise was good, but I really think your comparison goes off the rails and this really faulty logic here needs to be unpacked. I was that poor white girl too! and I did hate the mean girls. but the bigger issues of institutional racism, privilege, and feminism are just so much more complex than school politics.
a. it is not the oppression Olympics and when we complete in the oppression Olympics, only the oppressor wins (namely the white, cis-hetero, Christian male patriarchy). and I fear you’re playing the pititful white woman card too much.
b. violence against women is a MAJOR issue. but to lay that as defense of white women who have not stepped up for PoC or who have thrown PoC under the proverbial bus is irresponsible at best. yes, many women are abused (I was an abused child myself and a sexual assault survivor) and have been controlled by men historically and don’t have the agency we want for all women, BUT, most active, vocal white feminists have worked at the expense of WoC and have left non-white, non-cis women behind.
c. 54% of white women voted for Trump. you’re telling me that 53% of white women have no agency in their votes? REALLY? by contrast, 84% of black women voted Clinton. considering that all races of women experience domestic violence, the numbers just don’t support your theory.
d. we white women have played the victim for far too long. survival? maybe. but it’s time to stop. it’s time to stop crying rape from a passing black man (Emmett Till was not the only one) and causing harm with our victimhood. we have more privilege than you imply and more agency than ever before. it’s high time we stop calling ourselves victims and work harder to not only help ourselves but to lift up WoC, trans women, and disabled women.
e. it sounds like you don’t really understand intersectional feminism. it doesn’t mean that the white pants girls don’t struggle; it means that the places in which our identities intersect can determine our hands in life. intersectional feminism isn’t about shunning some women; it’s about lifting those whose identities have less privileges than others. if white women feel left out of intersectional feminism, maybe there’s a reason.
f. we don’t have a finite amount of ire to dole out. it’s not pie. and, honestly, keeping white women at the second rung of society under men ENFORCES the Patriarchy. you want to dismantle Patriarchy? then you HAVE to dismantle white supremacy and institutional racism and anti-semitism and systematic bigotries which target or oppress anyone disabled, queer, trans, non-Christian, and non-white. you can’t just fight misogyny; you have to fight the whole system. if that sounds impossible, that’s because it just about is, but I can’t bear to live a life where I’m not fighting that. otherwise, that would make me complicit (which ALL white women have been, hon, myself included).