A new perspective.

How will you feel after a month of gratefulness?

That’s a genuine question. I wonder how your perspective on things will change if you choose to find 3 different things everyday that you are grateful for.

I was terrified to start with. I was worried that I would not be able to do this for close to a month. There have definately been similarities at times, but I feel like I got through this without repeating myself. So…

Well played me!

There has also definately been at least two strong themes.

  1. My friends and other people that I have around me that I rely on to help make my day to day as enjoyable and easy as possible. I hope that what I have written highlights my gratefulness of the wonderful people I have in my life both here with me in Ecuador and around the world.
  2. I am quite a priveldged human being. Not in the sense that I grew up with lots of money, because I didn’t, but I grew up in a country that gave me the opportunity to learn, with a family that supported me in all my endeavours, that gave me opportunities and encouraged me to live my dreams. Then, for me, it was just about finding the courage and motivation to take those opportunities and use them to the best of my ability. More than one person in my life has told me of their envy of my life. The things I do. The people I meet. The freedom and flexibility I have. Life has taught me a lot about luck and it has certainly played a part in all of those things that I am so priveldged to experience, because let’s be honest, timing is a very important factor. However, I am a firm believer that
you make your own luck.

Granted, you have to be in the right place, at the right time, with the right skills and mindset. However, all of the things listed above, excluding time, you can control. They all come down to choices you make.

I have made some choices and worked bloody hard to create my own luck. The opportunities that I have chosen to take have a lot to do with the priveldges that I have been afforded in my life, but I’d be doing myself a disservice if I said they’d all fallen in my lap. Getting/doing what you want requires time and effort, but I am also grateful for the priveldges I’ve had that have allowed that time and effort to pay off.

Today I am grateful for:

1. Challenging myself to look at things from a different perspective.

In honesty at times I really had to look hard for things I was thankful for, however I think that that was probably a symptom of not being in this mindset before. I would say that before challenging myself with this project I liked to look at life from quite a “positive” perspective, but I have a real tendency to get bogged down in the negatives of daily existence. This experience has helped me to notice when I am taking things for granted. It really helped me to see that people don’t have what I have. Maybe I’m taking about material possessions, opportunities, support, mindset, values or any other valuable thing you can think of. Choosing to be grateful for that fact rather than guilty or gloat has really changed the way I look at things. I also started to really notice what other people were doing for me, how they were effecting me and what was required on their behalf.

It feels good to be able to appreciate this effort.

It’s has strengthened my relationships with the people who matter most to me, my family and friends.

2. Fulfilling a commitment to myself.

I have written before about the fact that I have wanted to write for quite a while. I just didn’t know about what and my fear has always been

“what if it’s not perfect”.

During this experience I chose to put something out there everyday. At times it meant that it was far from what I wanted it to be but I learned that I can pump out a post in a couple of hours that I’m happy enough to put out there and I’ve developed some skills as a result. For me the following points are important:

  1. Get it out of your head.
  2. Get it on the screen/on a pad.
  3. Just write.

I am grateful for this experience as a result and I hope to continue now that my wifi is more conducive to posting regularly.

3. I found something new to write about.

After conversations and experiences with many people over the last month, I’ve found a way to continue this same vein but from a different angle. There are things that people will always complain about, but rather than complain we can make a choice to find a positive, no matter how big or small. This is not ground breaking, but I hope that my perspective might just be interesting enough to read. If not, writing it helps me to find the positive which is very important to me.

So…

How will you feel after a month of gratefulness?

Do yourself a favour and try this for a week/fortnight/month/long enough to notice a difference.

At the end of each day jot down 3 things you are grateful for.

Your journey doesn’t have to be as public as this has been. When I say public, people would have to read it, but in the end that’s not why I do this.

I feel different.

A change for the better.

Im taking things less for granted.

I understand more about how I am effected by others and how I effect them.

I’d be very surprised if you had the exact same experience as me but I’m sure there will be similarities and hopefully your experience will be better. I am not the first person to say

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take

If you want to feel more grateful, commit it to paper…

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