So either we get angry, or we just close our eyes, nod our heads, and say things like “Yeah, using the Socratic method to talk intellectually would probably be a good way for us to discuss systematic racism.”
It’s Not About Race!
John Metta

Full disclosure. I’m male, heading for 50, pale-skinned and Australian. I’m in the “I’m still trying to relate this issue you talk about to my own experiences” camp, and the reaction you speak about here is the one I all too often get.

A couple of questions (and I mean these genuinely):

If I see the plight as the African (and other) slaves as no different from modern human trafficking, am I in the right ballpark?

Early on in my marriage my wife had two miscarriages. People who had never had a miscarriage said dumb things like “oh, won’t it be fun trying again”. They didn’t understand the emotional roller-coaster that you went on “trying again”. They didn’t “get it” and it was hurtful to me and my wife even though on the outside we’d politely smile and try and change the subject. In terms of relating this issue with my experience, is this kind-of in the ball park or is it totally different?

When you were saying “black people talk too loud”, I’ve been in the vicinity of many more caucasian that have no social graces. What’s the difference or was that a metaphor for a deeper lesson I’m simply not getting?

Finally, I’m second or third generation Australian, depending on how you count. My father’s side came from Scotland. I feel an “intellectual” connection with the Scots, but I wouldn’t call myself Scotish. I don’t quite know how to even phrase the question but how is this different?

Thanks in advance.

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