One of the simplest defences to bullying is making sure kids have more then one circle of peers.

They have one at school, which is their primary one. It’s one they spend 10 months of the year with, 5-days a week, 6.5 hours a day. If this circle turns toxic for them at all it can be easy for them to think it is them that is the problem, at least if it is the only circle of peers they are a part of.

Kids that participate in year round activities 2–3 times a week have a built in buffer. If school turns they have a place where they can fit in and be a part of a peer group that hasn’t turned against them. This can help keep them from thinking they are the problem, and help them bounce back from things in other environments. …


Fighting back is a often debated aspect of dealing with a bully.

The case against it is that it can lead to escalation, making the situation worse for the bully. The bully is often larger, sometimes multiple bullies, and with the possibility of a weapon being carried at older ages can prevent a real threat.

Telling a scared child to simply hit the bully in the face could very easily make the situation worse.

That said the right to self-defence is something that should never be taken away from a child, and in some cases may be the only remaining choice at a given time. …


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The unfortunate truth is the problem is one that often goes unreported. Part of that is failing to recognize what it is, and that there are ways to deal with it. 4 out of 5 cases of bullying go unreported to teachers / parents and everyone.

First, it is important to define what it is we mean when we say “bullying”, there are other behaviours that sometimes get confused with bullying, but bullying is a defined sort of behaviour. This is important as how we handle and teach childrento handle these different sorts of problems varies as well.

For something to be considered bullying it must be both intentional and repetitive. The behaviour must be aggressive, and with a (real or perceived) unequal balance of power. …

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Head Coach at Innovative Martial Arts in Winnipeg. Fitness, martial arts, leadership, kids

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