Think about that boy. That girl. Your cat. Your dog.

We all have that special someone, that someone we can label as our “best friend”. These are the ones we can go to rant about anything, to seek advice, to bug about video games, to ramble about nonsense, and the ones you seek comfort from when you’re down.

I have those. I have my bros; these guys stay awake with me, and we insult each other, laugh with (and at) each other, and give each other advice and questionably legit words of wisdom late at night. We don’t get mad at each other, we don’t talk shit about each other, and we don’t gossip about each other(any insults we make are in the name of fun).

I also got my sisters. People like to comment how my friends are all girls — which is true. I have a lot of friends of the female gender. People ask me why, and it’s fairly simple: I personally believe that it’s easier for me to talk to females. It’s easier to spill things to them, confiding in them my fears, my worries, and things that just need the touch of female.

But recently, I haven’t been doing very well with my female friends — I lost 3 of them in a year. They were all for roughly the same reason — they all got boyfriends. Which kind of makes me question, how do I tread this fine line between staying best friends and making sure I don’t creep them away/make their boyfriends want to kill me?

Simple, time for a list:

1. Don’t, under any circumstances, develop a crush on her. Sometimes, it’s quite simple. But, in other times, it becomes quite… hard. Whatever you do, just control it — it won’t go well otherwise. You’ll either force her to choose between you or her current boytoy, or you’ll creep her away. Pretty much just happened to me.
2. Don’t bash on her boy. Just, don’t. You’re her best friend, she most likely values your opinion a lot. She wants you to accept him — and it’s your job to, even if you don’t like him. Unless if you know he’s a total douchebag — then please do.

That’s pretty much it. I haven’t had a very easy time, and this was a time for me spill out what’s been bothering me.