I give zero figs, fucks, whatever with respect to Ben. But throughout this piece, it seems to me that you conflate nature and nurture. As a straight male, I have no personal interest regarding gay men in any fashion. If I am not thrilled by a gay kiss as I would be by a heterosexual one, I suspect that’s because I’ve been socialized to feel that way. I suspect you have, too. That’s not to say that everyone should be sexually happy with anyone else… rather, that each person ought to be considered as an individual. Communication trumps socialization. And in most cases, what appears to be natural is in fact the product of socialization.