You can listen to this musing here or read it below.This musing is kind of a follow-up to The conscious kinkster prepares because I want to try in detail to lay out what it means to prepare. First, it’s necessary to realize that the person entering the play is different…

You can listen to this musing here or read it below.There is an idea that intimacy is about being understood deeply, like knowing another and being known by them in return. Maybe there is a promise of relating effortlessly. No conflicts, just peace. For example, I often hear people romanticize…

You can listen to this musing here or read it below.Everyone longs for connection. That is to feel that we belong to someone or something. Being disconnected, outcasted, and ignored is one of the cruellest penalties. So in every retreat I teach, it’s always the experience of intimately relating to…

You can listen to this musing here or read it below. I’m currently reading James Miller’s book about Michel Foucault’s life. The part that interests me the most is Foucault’s meeting with the gay leather scene in San Francisco. And how ritualized BDSM practices and drugs probably changed his perception…

You can listen to this musing here or read it below. Breath in and breath out. That is the doing. In between, there is a pause of nothingness. That is the being, and that is where the magic happens. Sometimes, my work has one immense frustration; it sells out quickly…

You can listen to this musing here or read it below. I recently spent a month in a spiritual community in Brazil. Being off-grid, the eco-village generates electricity, enforces bio-degradable products to avoid waste and self-purifies its waters. In a way, it’s its own garden of Eden. While the COVID…

You can listen to this musing here or read it below. Welcome to a celebration of masochism, from the physical, through the emotional and into the devotional. There are endless explanations about why we seek pain and suffering and why it feels pleasurable and meaningful. From writers like De Sade…

You can listen to this musing here or read it below. There are many ways to categorize emotions, and maybe it’s impossible to experience how a particular emotion feels in another person. However, there are many studies and theories. I remember reading about the seven universal emotions by Paul Ekman…