What does it Take, to Take Offense

I’m always guilty of this. The dreaded foot in mouth syndrome. Sometimes it’s just word vomit and you say something that you didn’t intend, this is usually followed by an awkward laugh and brief embarrassment.

I grew up on banter, you give it and you take it. I had this really interesting conversation a few weeks ago about what is your idea of the stereotypical British man and now I’m in London the answers are all so different. Some people would depict the James Bond gentleman in the suite, some people think about Hugh Grant or Colin Firth but for me that was never my idea of the British man. Don’t worry, I’m not about to get onto some political or racial rate here, just so you know…

The people I have trusted the most in my life have never been the people who are always super nice to me. The people I have liked the most in my life have never been the people who are super nice to me. No, the people I like and trust in my life will be the first people to call me out if I’m in the wrong or occasionally in the right, just for fun. When you get to the point in a relationship when you feel comfortable say “hey, you look like shit” you know you have a real friend.

It’s about to be 2016 and political correctness is at an all time high. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about respect. I like to use the word ‘respect’ when it comes to these matters because ‘equality’ and words of this nature can mean so many different things, it just depends who you ask. However, ‘respect’ is a constant, it’s solid. Give everyone the same respect until they give you a reason not to and you won’t go far wrong. Easy.

The work place is the worst. I have always felt that people who swear more are always the most trust worthy. Why is it necessary to act differently in and out of work? I never grasped that concept. In a business environment trust is a big part of getting things done so why are we acting so fake to each other? I don’t get it. Maybe it’s my upbringing.

What does it take, to take offense? Remember “sticks and stones will break my bones….” it’s just words people. I think primary schools have developed a whole curriculum on what is the right and wrong terminology to explain things now, I’m glad I missed that class, I’d never have made it out of primary school. Like I said earlier I have a bad case of foot in mouth syndrome but that doesn’t make me a bad person or in the wrong, if a person uses the incorrect term to describe someone else, it doesn’t mean that they are intentionally being rude. No, there is so much to consider now when you meet someone, the whole art of conversation is being completely demolished and it’s so sad.

I understand that people don’t appreciate certain terms so here is a quick guide on how not to be an ass hole when someone says the non politically correct thing. You pull the person to one side a little while after the term was used and you say “ I know you didn’t mean anything by what you just said but it can be offensive so perhaps say …… instead” done