BE more INTERESTED than INTERESTING

The measure of self-assurance is how deeply and sincerely interested you are in others; the measure of insecurity is how much you try to impress them with you.” — Mark Goulston
Being an extrovert person I love to talk to others ,but the main problem is most of the people are not talkative , so I have to start by providing them the platform to relax and feel comfortable , but few days later I came across a quote that “be more interested than interesting” ,I think I have spent most of the time being interesting so I took an oath to explore people ,be interested ,for this I start meeting my old friends , I start exploring them I asked them about their routines ,their future plans ,their daily affairs ,their activities , about their studies and many more question like that ,but in return what I got was mind blowing ,they became more talkative and interested, every one loves to talk about him/her self , and when we showed them our interest they in return become interested in our life ,they found us interesting and spend more than expected time with us .It is like what you give , you get. “When you take interest in someone ,there arises a natural appeal in himself to turn to you.” — DALE CARNEGIE
when you met some one ,even stranger and you smiles then in return he/she also smiles ,that’s something what I am talking about ,so give what you want to get ,Be a reflection of you would like to see in others.

Become that person who is more interested in others than in being interesting and invite others to share their feelings, their thoughts and their actions and people will shake your hand and you too can overcome your shyness if you have .“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”. — Dale carnegie
So if you see someone who is alone at a gathering, realize that ,they also may not be telling you to stay away, and leave them alone, but dealing with their social anxiety and shyness. Therefore, go up to them and initiate the conversation, and you have to resist the desire or habit to talk about yourself and also forget about the different objectives or goals that you might have and focus entirely on showing deep interest in others. Who knows, you might be talking to the next Bill Gates.
If you want to have an interesting dinner conversation, be interested. If you want to have interesting things to write, be interested. If you want to meet interesting people, be interested in the people you meet — their lives, their history, their story.” — Jim Collins
after spending a week with friend with an aim to be interested ,I personally found that its more cool to be interested than interesting ,you are more likely to have a bunches of information and experiences by exploring people as they are like a open book ,go and read them ,instead of reading the same book for years.
