adam neiman
Sep 6, 2018 · 1 min read

FF, spot on about how wrong the instrumental subject/object approach to female orgasm. Sex is infinitely better from a more nuanced & complex approach. But is it conceivable that the idea of “making a woman come” was a shrewd gambit to get clueless, narcissistic guys to take interest in the woman’s pleasure in the 1st place? It wouldn’t have taken much to encourage the delusion & while less than ideal, certainly it was progress over not giving a rat’s ass. Worked for me for many years but glad to have gotten over it.