My husband has started to watch porn. He’s always been a gentle and considerate lover, but now he’s hurting me and wants me to get into odd positions.
Try watching with him to see what he’s watching. Maybe you can agree some compromise, a bit of role play perhaps. It’s important he knows what you’re prepared to do and what you’re not. A safe word might help when you’ve reached your limit. Talk to him and explain how you feel. Tell him he’s hurting and upsetting you, maybe he thinks you’re bored with him and is trying to up his game. Maybe he is angry about something else. Ask him.