15 signs you’re living in a depressed state + what to do about it
There are different levels to depression, but when you’re depressed, you know it. There’s an internal collapse. Walls narrow. Your soul hallows. Your days blur. There’s lots of licking nacho cheese powder off your fingers as your head grows a permanent pillow. Motivation is someone you used to know, a long time ago. These days you just read about it. Depression is not a teeter, it’s a sink. Whether it’s sudden or gradual, there’s been a shift and you’re aware of it.
A depressed state, however, is a slow leak you don’t notice. It’s a low tire you keep driving on. You know you’re unhappy, but it’s been so long since you tasted happy, there’s no contrast. And you hold on to your sunken state like a baby blanket. You’ve accepted it. Because over the years, it’s taken your self esteem hostage. You no longer believe change is possible or that you even deserve it. The result is a muted life.
Living in a depressed state is worse than being depressed. Lack of awareness dissolves any urge to pull yourself out. You never wake up with the realization that you’re not living.
It’s a coma I know very well. I lived in it for most of my adult life. For many, this is what it looks like:
- Tolerable relationships
- Processed sugar
- Closed windows
- Stuffed feelings
- “I can’ts”
- A cul-de-sac
Fortunately, life circumstances forced me to punch through the cocoon. Being stripped and rebuilding a new life created an awakening. New lenses and some tools.
But sometimes, I feel the slow tug of falling back into that deep trance again; awareness punches my gut and pushes me into to sun.
Many are not given this punch. Life doesn’t force them into a corner, not giving them a choice to live different. So they go through their days dog, paddling just above water and accepting that this is what life looks like. What they’re missing:
- Fulfilling relationships
- Leaning into fears
- Daily sweat with a smile
- Being a catalyst
- Walking with certainty
- “What ifs”
- An open road that winds up a mountain top.
You may not be depressed, but ask yourself if any of the words from the first list ring a bell, even if it’s a faint bell.
Then tell yourself that 2015 will be the year you became aware, punched through, didn’t give yourself a choice, that changed everything.