Letter from the 20 me to the future me
Hey there, I’m talking to You — the future me.
Yeah. I’m 21 now. Finally I’m done with my 20. It has been chaotic but I’ve made it! So just want you to freaking remember what happened when you were 20. I know that you’re forgetful and constantly drifting away from where you want to go and who you want to be. That’s why I’m gonna write down all the lessons that I’ve learned in the past year.
Thank goodness, I’m fine now. Oh not even fine, I’m happy. Every time I stop and think about my life now “Crap, I’m so happy with everyone and everything around me”. Well life isn’t any easier and I haven’t clearly imagined where I’m gonna be in the next 5 years yet but I’m spiritually healthy. Not that I’m pursuing some sort of religion but I’m now able to live my life the way I want and comfortable in my own skin. [http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14440/20-signs-youre-a-spiritually-healthy-person.html]
1. Family and Friends should always be on top of your priority list (if you haven’t had such a list, create one)
As I said, I’m really happy now. This wouldn’t happen without my family and friends, from whom I’ve learned many valuable lessons that helped me cope with my emotions and straight things out. Thank you for being by my side through all the ups and downs (even when I was as a merlion LMAO).
People tend to think “family and true friends would always be there for you” but please, don’t take things for granted. You need to do some work and put your effort in. Show your gratitude, pay people respect and true friendship. True friendship is made, not merely just happens when people run into each other. Never forget to set aside part of your day to spend quality time with them. I once put work and study over everything. But one day, out of a sudden, I realized that all I’d done was meaningless. I mean, if I suddenly disappeared from this world, would the things I’d done be beneficial for anyone around me. Or would people even aware that I’d no longer there.
“Friendship is everything. Friendship is more than talent. It is more than government. It is almost the equal of family. Never forget that.” — The Godfather
However, don’t waste your time and energy in people who just simply can’t appreciate the friendship you offer. Make the right investment in the meaningful relationships with people who care about you.
2. Love yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin.
I have some bad news for you. You’re gonna make people unhappy. Yeah no matter how hard you try, at some point of time, you will still hurt some one. The more people you know, the higher chance of your accidentally hurting someone is. I used to be under the heavy impression that I am responsible for the feelings of people around me. I had a tough time saying no. I tried to fix everything and solve everyone else’s problems. It did make me feel better nurturing people as I ran away from my own problems. I laughed yet it felt so wrong. I ended up making people feel worse.
You can’t make people happy if you are not happy yourself.
But it doesn’t mean that you should stay away from people. Just be honest with yourself, make the best out of your life and give it all you got. Keep being awesome your habit. Things will get smoother once you’re happy with yourself.
Your life is too brief yet too wonderful so don’t waste it living other’s life. Be the author of your own story.
Another point, be vulnerable. Trust people worth being trusted. In love. In life. Well it hurts. It may hurt like hell but if you don’t dare to be vulnerable, you won’t be able to see beautiful things in the world.
3. Fear. And questions
I was a scaredy-cat that got freak out and stress over some random things.
Mephobia (n.) fear of being so awesome that the human race can’t handle it and everyone dies.
Alright, that’s not the main point.
“Learn to put the right questions” was the first and one of the most valuable lessons I learned from my internship. And it has been the guideline to solve all of my problems.
Things remain problems once they are kept in your head, messy. You’re gonna get stress when there are thoughts scattering in your head and you don’t know which one to grab. Once you put a question to your problem, you can gradually solve it by answering all those questions step-by-step. And stop running away from your problems. Just face it. Once and for all. Problems are stubborn, they’re not going anywhere unless you put an end to it. The longer you run away from the problems, the less chance you have to enjoy the wonderful things out there.
Alright, go and explore the world. Hope you’re gonna have a meaningful life!
Okay, that’s it. Keep living your life and being awesome.