How bringing comparison with your Ex can ruin your First Date?
In the very First Date with your New Girlfriend if you start comparing her with your Ex then only God can save you from the Disaster. Though there is no such guarantee because in this situation even God might tell you
“What the hell are you doing my boy, don’t you know the Golden Rule of First Date” :)!
What there are some Golden Rules? I didn’t know! Don’t yell on yourself just relax there is no such thing, the only thing which needs there and in any situation like this is your Common Sense.
Yup; that’s what is ultimately required! Otherwise if you do such dumb thing then just be assured that you have nailed it in the coffin of your relationship before it even took off.
How could you even thought that a girl who is going to start a relationship with you will be happy after getting that you are such an ass-hole who compares her with his Ex at every step.
Don’t you think you are disrespecting her? It’s not just disrespecting, by doing this you are just making her feel that there is not enough space available for her in your heart.
No girl in this world likes this, it’s not just for girls even if you were in the same place then you also couldn’t be.
Listen dude, don’t behave like a Dumb Ass because if you don’t care about her feelings then why the hell are you trying to start a relationship?
Now you may ask how may I know such things, I am not an expert. Right, you are not.
Neither do I but there are some key points which you should always keep in mind when you are going to the very first date with your would be Girlfriend.
If you just keep your eyes open, possess some common sense & have an habit to read various books/ blogs you can gain a wholesome idea regarding what you generally should do or shouldn’t in a situation like this (First Date).
So among many such things one vital point is never bringing any comparison with your Ex.
No one is interested to listen how your Ex was like mainly when that one is your would be Girlfriend. There will come many situations in life where she will ask you, then tell her not in your First Date.
Here I am giving you some significant reasons why.
It hurts Individuality
Everyone has his/ her own nature, believe & way of seeing and living the life. If you directly compare someone with anyone else, it not only hurts but it seems really irritating.
Because we are all different in our own way and we never like to get compared with others. When it comes down to a relation that becomes more fierce, so don’t do it ever on your very first date. Got it?
It shows you haven’t recovered from the past
In the very First Date with a New Girl if you start comparing her each & every attitude with your Ex Girlfriend, that will not only hurt her but it seems you are still juggling badly to come out from your past state of mind.
I you want to move ahead in life then try to chuck off this type of thoughts & attitudes from your mind. Otherwise, it’s effect can be long standing.
You are creating a very bad Impression of your own self
When instead of accepting someone’s real self you are constantly trying to find out some other’s image in her, that actually jeopardises your self image.
Because it clearly shows, you are such a rigid person who can’t even accept a person as how he/ she is.
In the very first day if you create such an impression then how can you expect that a Girl would like to have you as her future life partner.
It will create a hole in the layer of trust among yourselves.
It shows you are too Insecure
“You know my previous girlfriend would have never done this, You know she was so caring in these matters” & bla bla bla.
Now tell me, who the hell is bothered about these. If you tell constantly these things, after a certain time the Girl in front of you will tell please go to hell with your Ex.
It’s exactly what she will think & it’s quite justifiable. If you wanna tell stories & wanna brag about your past relationship then go to somewhere else don’t just ruin the Date.
You may think she should be a bit compassionate, but why? She has her own expectations too from you then how can you be such a Moron.
It clearly shows you are too Insecure and for that you just wanna increase your value by telling the past stories regarding how she would have taken care of yours.
Don’t do it.
It brings a sense of jealousy
From the very first day of a relationship if it comes then it can take a bad turn in near future.
As you always brag about your past she will also want to do that, in this way of showing off one day the bonding will get jeopardised.
Hope you have understood.
Now tell me what’s your take on this?
