Animorf Kawadias
Jul 23, 2017 · 3 min read

@ Lily-Rose Meadowes As I see it being attracted to men, and not women full stop does not make you transphobic. Lease not anymore, then saying you want fried chicken and watermelon makes you a racist, when that is really what you want to eat or are attracted too. But I do believe that when people get their feelings hurt because of rejection, that it can often cause one to see discrimination where there is none. Kind of like when I explained to a guy I know, who is black, about some of the beliefs that I was raised with. Now those beliefs, that I was raised with was very racist beliefs, as they was very much forms of xenophobia. Which are very much rooted in misinformation, and out right ignorance because of misinterpretations of biblical scripture. Which leads me into some of the homophobic beliefs, that I was raised with as well.

Yet I still often see other trans-folk, who jump to conclusions just like how in the old days some homosexual people also jumped to conclusions with others within the LGBT+ community. But it is also like how I grew up with the word Queer, being a negative as a racial slur within a community that was automatically seen in a very negative way. Again which was due to misinformation and misinterpretations of biblical scripture, that are all routed in preconceived idea’s that simply are not true.

Now the only way I could see your statement, as being transphobic is if you had included transmen in your list of those you would not date. And stating so, based on ignorance, or on a preconceived idea that dating a transman made you homosexual. As your statement, is completely different then that of my ex of 20+ years who, viewed anyone who was transgender as being homosexual regardless of which gender they dated. For instance, she believed that if a person was born male, and transitioned to living as a woman. Then they was automatically homosexual, and that it made the person they was in a relationship with as being homosexual. All based on, her preconceived notion that if, such a person dated a man then they was homosexual. And if they dated a woman, then it was still a homosexual relationship. So basically it was her flawed logic, because of her homophobia that was based on very strict religious beliefs as a catholic. And I do not see any of that in what you are stating.

Now for anyone, that just read that paragraph. Let me make this clear, to you. What I just stated is by “NO MEANS” my beliefs, but that of an ex. The other things I have said, are simply examples of things that are often mistaken as being racism, and xenophobia, as well as transphobia. But are not, as there is a difference in explaining things through the use of examples. As I do not subscribe to any of those beliefs, and while growing up with those beliefs, does not inherently make one a racist or phobic of such things as interracial marriages, or LGBTQ relationships. As it can take a while, for a person’s perception on certain things to change so they understand when negatives are being changed into positives to take power away from bigots.