Stop asking what we want to be when we grow up?!
From a young age you are being asked “what do you want to be when you grow up”? and we should stop!
We should rather ask, how you want to be when you grow up?
I remember growing up on the farm playing around with my imaginary friends, just being happy and free. I wasn’t one of those who knew what they want to be up to 2 years ago, I just wanted to be happy and free that’s it. Sounds easy enough, I thought.
If I look back now only if I asked myself what makes me happy and what do I do that makes me feel free. This however never bothered me until we did an aptitude test in high school and my interested were only in 3 areas, kind off…
I was sitting with my parents at a parent meeting and looking at my friends results, so many options, so many interested. My three interests were law, computer studies and an administrative career.
I wasn’t convinced on any of those at first, firstly i had a big fear for computers growing up in a small town we didn’t have computers and to put into perspective my parents only got internet 5 years ago. I however overcome my computer fear — story for another time. Secondly admin didn’t sound like me being happy at all. Ironically I did this for almost 2 years and its exactly in that time that I discovered UI & UX.
When it came to the point i had to choose what I need to study, my dad (the amazing man he is) asked so what are you going to study, I just said something with computers. He found something called Socio Informatics and I wasn’t even sure what that is but l applied and had fun and hard times.
Even during studies I was still not sure what I will actually do with this in the real world and only after 5 years I started knowing what makes me happy.
It took me a long time to know what I wanted to be because we were pressured to find that one thing and do it, otherwise we fall behind.
We put so much pressure on asking kids and adults what you want to be, it doesn’t matter what we want to be, its how we want to be and how that makes us feel.
Be happy, be free in everything you choose to do.