Falling in love is easy. Falling in love with the same person repeatedly is extraordinary.

Preeti: Can you please fill this form?
Kabir: *read the form* *gasps* Baby its 78 questions.
Preeti: Please for me, I’ll do that for you in the same way.
Kabir: Yeah sure, why not? But why?
Preeti: Yaar, its been 12 years and I’ve forgotten half of the things about you. And I am sure you’ve too.
Kabir: Nah, not a single thing I’ve forgotten. (in his mind — *I don’t remember a single thing*)
Preeti: Plus I know a lot of things should’ve changed from then so I’ll be updated na.

Get to know who your partner is — now.

Kabir: Hi.
Preeti: Hi, Its 6 AM baby.
Kabir: I have started jogging.
Preeti: Ohh it’s just a dream. Thank god.
Kabir: Ohhh hello. Madam, wake up. I am jogging.
Preeti: But I don’t want to jog.
Kabir: But baby I haven’t asked you to jog. I have called you because you’ve to study.
Preeti: But baby, how adorable! You’re going to jog. I love that paunch, No?
Kabir: Arrrrehh, can you not. Wake up na?
Preeti: Uth rahi baba. (Waking up na.)
Kabir: I’ll call you again after an hour, so don’t sleep.
Preeti: Ok boss. Btw thank you for getting serious about you and your health.

Find new things to appreciate and love about your partner (based on who they are currently).

Preeti: Hey I want to confess something.
Kabir: Yes I know, you’ve stolen my heart when I wasn’t looking.
Preeti: Can you please be serious for a single day.
Kabir: Ok sorry. Go on.
Preeti: Now don’t be sad, first of all, bring a smile on your face.
Kabir: Accha. Aa gayi. (ok. It’s been here now.)
Preeti: So first of all, thanks for being with me and to handle all of the tantrums. Thanks for being there when I needed somebody to listen and a shoulder to cry. I know I don’t express my love a lot but you know how much I love you and there is not a single day in these 8 years that I haven’t loved you. I hope you’ll remain by my side forever.
Kabir: Ohh I knew this. Ok bye.

Praise your partner for their kindness, generosity, help, and care, for being a great parent, partner, son, and daughter; for their compassion, and for being loving and respectful.

Kabir: Hey I am coming to your office. I have some work there.
Preeti: Ok come. Bring something na.
Kabir: *buys chocolates* *arrives at her office*
Preeti: Ohh you have reached. What was your work here?
Kabir: Ummm. I don’t remember.
Preeti: Tell me frankly.
Kabir: I just wanted to see you.
Preeti: Did you bunked office to see me?
Kabir: I am sorry, I shouldn’t.
Preeti: It’s ok. *kisses*

Find new ways to be together.

Kabir: Let’s go somewhere.
Preeti: Let’s make a plan na?
Kabir: But your brother, your father, your mother. You won’t get permission.
Preeti: Yes that’s the problem.
Kabir: Let’s go in Delhi at least. Not some mall. I beg.
Preeti: But baby, in the mall there’s Rolls King.
Kabir: Ok which mall is nearest?
Preeti: Dumbo.

Travel Together.

Kabir: Yaar you know, When I saw you the first time I wasn’t sure that we would have traveled this much in our relationship. For me your soul was important. I haven’t seen such a cute masterpiece. You’re just awesome in your own way. But now after 8 years when I see you, you’ve become a fully grown woman and thanks my lucky stars to be with you.
Preeti: Oye, You don’t have to make me senti.
Kabir: Ok, from half-minded you’ve become empty-minded. Now happy?
Preeti: I swear I am gonna bite you.
Kabir: Ohh pls no, Mom won’t tolerate this time that a cockroach can bite me.
Preeti: Shutup. *blushes*

Remember the reasons why you fell in love for the first time.

Kabir: Why you don’t smile that much now?
Preeti: Becoz life sucks.
Kabir: I am your life. :(
Preeti: Not in a mood na.
Kabir: I was cheering you up. Leave. So hectic day? Scolded by the teacher? Assignment submission date is near?
Preeti: Literally. This life sucks. I am so much sick at this college.
Kabir: Baby, one year more.
Preeti: I know baby, but what’s the point if I am not happy.
Kabir: You’ll once you finish it then you’ll. Ok sending you your’s favorite ice cream.
Preeti: I hope it delivers here. Just stay. I need you here right at the moment.

Put the focus back on your partner.

P.S.: Falling in love again with the same person is magical. It's likely not a single moment that inspires this but rather an ongoing and consistent series of experiences and deliberate actions that are given and received — all to offer kindness, care, and of allowing yourself to be in love again — and to purposefully experience this time — as different — and with the potential for love being even better.

Pic Credits: Screenshot & HJ-Story: Love & Happiness

Writing from my desk, Hiding from my boss.

~Ankur ❤