Rick Fischer rape culture is not a “meme,” it’s a phrase that we use to encapsulate the various aspects of our own generalized human culture (yes, the one that’s shared by most of us and unifies us) which contribute to the mentality that leads to rape and other forms of sexual assault. You’re right that rape is (mostly) despised as an act, but the reason why we use the term “rape culture” is because rape is often indirectly supported in our culture. For example, being a “womanizer” is respected and often applauded. Or, there’s the idea that a wife “ought” to have sex with her husband whenever he’s in the mood. The list goes on.
Which brings me to your second point on enthusiastic consent. You may have misunderstood, but I didn’t say that obtaining *unenthusiastic* consent should always qualify as a prosecutable rape or even sexual coercion. I’m saying that the simple standard of obtaining a “yes” is a terribly low bar, and that raising this bar is another aspect of fighting rape culture.
Which is not a meme.
Literally, people get PhDs in this stuff.
This response wasn’t directly disrespectful to me, so I thought it was worth answering. But to be quite honest, your attitude disrespects not only survivors, but also entire academic disciplines and decades of peer-reviewed research.