Anna Z-man
Jul 26, 2017 · 1 min read

You’re 100% entitled to your emotional reaction- everyone is emotional in wedding situations and it’s important to not discount those feelings. It’s good that you recognize them and are putting them out into the open.

On the sister in law front, it can be hard to not have a super great relationship with an incoming sibling. That being said, sometimes people just don’t jive perfectly and there isn’t much you can do. She may feel awkward around you, feel you don’t have that much in common, not know what to say, have different familial and wedding traditions, etc. I’m extremely close to all my siblings, but even after 6 years my boyfriend isn’t that close to them- granted there are thousand+ mile distances that make getting to know each other tough.

If possible, I would try to spend more face to face time with her by eating out, hosting a game night, or going shopping. Sometimes you just need some inside jokes or references to get the ball rolling. In those situations, you may want to make it clear that you aren’t a spy for your parents or your brother. You want that relationship to develop separate from your relationship to your brother.

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