Writing About Dogs May Not Be What You Think
I write a lot about dogs. I love dogs.
Really, I love all animals in general, but dogs are special because they are very mobile animals (easy to take along with us) and therefore can be with us all the time. For the majority of people, their dog is a family member.
But, I do actually understand that most people don’t care about reading about dogs.
There is actually a reason though, for non-dog people to care about how dogs affect humans.
Because dogs are so intertwined with humans, they reflect the state of mind of each of us who lives with a dog or dogs. This might be difficult for a person without a dog to get, but I hope to clarify that in this article.
Training a dog is completely connected to each person’s psychology.
The method used, the results of the training, the behaviours you need your dog to learn. All of this is determined by the state of mind you are in.
For me, writing about my dogs makes me an open book. I can relate my issues easier in writing by discussing my dogs and how they act.
Having and training my dogs has helped me understand my anger. I used to get distraught because my dogs would not “listen” or would behave “badly”. Then I would blame them for their own behaviour not realizing that behaviour was a reflection of me.
As a professional dog training instructor and dog trainer, I could easily see the attitudes and behaviours of dogs who live with different humans. Often, people would ask for help with a new dog after their old one had passed away and the behaviour of the new dog was very similar if not the same as the old one.
This is because the person had not done anything different with the new dog simply because that person had not changed.
You have to change yourself in order to change your dog’s behaviour.
There is no getting around it. Your dog is a reflection of you.
Of course there are some dogs who have serious behavioural and mental issues that were caused by different factors. Many of these issues can be helped or resolved by training and living with different people, the same as living with the wrong person could seriously mentally harm one of these dogs.
It really is all in how you see the world and communicate to your dog.
I am not trying to blame people here for having “bad” dogs. I am simply stating fact.
Many people in the dog world don’t like this viewpoint because it seems to put the blame on the human for a dog that is having trouble behaviourally. This may or may not be the case. Most likely, this attitude is simply the fear of change.
Many times a dog with a serious behaviour issue will be adopted into a family of humans. This behaviour issues is obviously NOT the result of the new family. But it likely was the result of something a human did in the dog’s past.
Yes, there are genetic behavioural issues. Some that cannot be modified. We are not talking about those.
The point is not to blame people. The point is to make people aware that change can happen for the better with a little conscious living.
In fact if you take offense to this way of thinking, that is something that you will need to examine in yourself — why you let what I am saying affect you.
If you are secure in your beliefs and way of life then I can’t influence you at all. And likely your dog’s behaviour will be a reflection of that attitude as well.
I have found that the less upset I am at things around me, at my dogs, people, etc. the more calm my dogs are. This is really what I have seen with my own eyes. When you are calm, things around you are calmer as well.
Because dog and human energy is so intertwined, you affect them greatly. More so than the other way around.
If this is the case with another species, and we can make changes in our dog’s behaviour with a few changes in ourselves, imagine what it would be like if we were more conscious in our interactions with other humans.