The first flaw in the “control” lie is the idea that sex is about control. It isn’t. It is about connection. That can involve control. Control can be passed back and forth. It is a tool of sex — not an established role.6 Lies Men Tell That Are Ruining Sex for Everybody2K5Benjamin DavisAnne SharkFollowMar 4 · 1 min readSuch a simple, matter-of-fact way to explain the complexities of power play with sex and connection.