Anne Zinn
Anne Zinn
Aug 22, 2017 · 2 min read

As always, you cut right to the heart of the matter. Thank you for framing it for me, in terms of shaping my sexual identity. Ive been struggling with the concepts I was raised with around sex, and the roles we women ( women of my generation ) we raised to believe we meant to fill, in terms of wife, mother, helpmate , and if course bread winner, because we’re liberated. I’m so used to thinking in terms of almost transactional love, as if my love, sex and caring in exchange for fidelity for life, financial security ( building a future, etc). It’s a brave new world for me, to open myself up to the idea of multiple lovers, not just partners, but people who you actually interact with in a caring, loving, want the best for you, want to give yourself to, without constraints or jealousy or need to BE In THEIR life..everyday. I too spend a lot if time on my own, and I used to be kinda embarrassed about it, like “ what kind of friendless loser am I”, but you’re so right! I get into the most fascinating conversations and I get so much insight from sharing with strangers. Now if I could meet some hot men along the way, even better! I find solace in the fact that there are others out there too, the ones who are restless , afraid to be tied down, yet wanting a connection, for as long as it serves us. I don’t mean serves us, in that we are selfish people looking only to satisfy our needs, but people who are honest with themselves and their partners in that , this is great, but when I need to go, let’s be good to each other, and not talk shit or destroy the other person in the process. At the end of the day, at least we own our shit and aren’t afraid to state it. That being said, its sometimes hard for people to deal with people like ourselves, who are brutally honest. It’s even harder to live that way.

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