This was a bell ringer for me! To paraphrase Oprah, I had an A-Ha moment! I struggle all the time with an I giving too much , an I needy, should I break it off before I get more hurt.. then I play avoidance and non communicative games, hoping to get what I want .. and of course it ends up failing. And then I think, why can’t people be honest with each other? Well, an I being honest acting like things things are fine when they not. Taking this advice to heart. Thanks for great perspective and writing. I look forward to reading you every day.