Annie Littlewolf
Sep 5, 2018 · 1 min read

When you said that it was validating to you when women admit they made a mistake, then follow it with “now it just pisses me off”…….in my own extremely self-centered way, did my admitting now, some 42 years later, put me in the box of women “who piss you off”?

Jim and I were not married, not engaged. But we WERE a couple, viewed ourselves as a “couple” — this was after my divorce (after 6 months of marriage) to a violent, alcoholic, unfaithful man), and we were so for about two years. Then he invited his teacher and her husband and kids to the commune we lived in, asked me to take her husband and children for a walk, so he and she could talk. Turned out they did WAY more than talk…..which I’ll leave to your imagination. I discovered the “remains” of their love-making session, and his words were “I like her”. After the pain of the infidelity of my first marriage, I just blew up. I could not believe it was happening to me AGAIN. He did not apologize, nor say it was a mistake.

Later, after many years of self-reflection, I KNOW I should have said “I understand”. I didn’t. My pride was so wounded at the point, I was so very hurt by the maybe the deceit more? (Take her husband and kids for a walk while we talk…that was the deceit) — but yes, hindsight is always 20/20, and I blew it.

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