I understood this and thought it must be wrong. Thanks for helping. Am a combination of anxious and avoidant-insecure by these definitions and fit the relational models you projected almost perfectly.
My past relationships have been alternating between drawing people out into external activities and being drawn into more interior and emotional activities.
I don’t like soft and tender; always left me exploited and exhausted. I’ve understood part of the reason why this is by your post. Thank you!