The Process is More Important Than the Goal
Choose “to become” rather than simply “receive”
“The process is testing you as well as teaching you. If you pass the test and learn the lessons, you get to go on to your next process. If you fail a test and quit rather than retake the test, the process spits you out.” -Robert Kiyosaki, Rich Dad Poor Dad
The personal transformation that occurs when you train yourself to become a millionaire is infinitely better than the money itself.
Being someone who knows how to make a million dollars is infinitely better than simply having the money.
Yet this isn’t how most people see value. Most people perceive all the value to be in the result, not the process.
For example: most new bloggers would probably say they’d rather have an instant 100,000 followers than undergo the process of earning them. Most unhealthy individuals would probably rather have a sudden 6-pack rather than become a new person by earning it.
Not only is this lazy, it’s self-destructive. If you don’t learn to wield massive success before it happens, it will destroy you.
The process is infinitely more valuable and important than the result.
When you commit to the process — never giving up, creatively overcoming setbacks and obstacles, trying new strategies — a powerful metamorphosis happens. You literally transform in the process.
This change is the real value.
People who “just want the prize” miss this entirely. They don’t realize how valuable and powerful the transformation is, which is only possible from taking the hard way around.
In the words of James Allen from As a Man Thinketh:
“Even if a man fails again and again to accomplish his purpose (as he necessarily must until weakness is overcome), the strength of character gained will be the measure of his true success, and this will form a new starting point for future power and triumph.”
If you want true, lasting success in any area, you must undergo the process.
You must become a better version of yourself.
You Can’t Pass Go Until You’ve Proven You’re Ready
“This is the process by which wealth is accumulated: first in small sums, then in larger ones as a man learns and becomes more capable.” -The Richest Man in Babylon
I’ve been blogging for over 5 years. Frankly, my writing never got that much attention. No one read my stuff.
I wasn’t committed. I was lazy. I didn’t practice enough, and my articles…weren’t good, to put it nicely.
But in the past 3 months, my writing has exploded.
I went from a few dozen email subscribers to hundreds in a single day. I’ve gotten thousands of new followers. A prominent magazine asked if they could feature one of my articles. I’ve made more passive income from my blog in the past week than in the entire past 5 years combined.
I wasn’t ready for the next step. Until recently.
I finally made a concerted effort to hone my writing skills. I studied my favorite writers and took notes on everything from word count to paragraph breaks. Before, I wouldn’t post for months because I “wasn’t inspired.” Then I decided to start writing every single day.
You cannot pass go until you’ve proven you’re ready.
“Every next level in life will demand a different you.” -Leonardo DeCaprio
Most people pine for the elusive life they crave — happiness, health, wealth, etc. — but never really work on themselves to get there.
Most people have plateau’d without realizing it. They’re not making any forward movement anymore.
A common theme in video games is “leveling up” and gaining experience to move on. If you do not “train” your character, you can’t beat the boss and go to the next stage.
The same principle is true in your life.
There is a big, bad boss that’s standing in your way of what you want — weight loss, financial independence, opening a business, etc. — and you can never move on to the next stage unless you train yourself to beat the boss standing guard.
Embrace the process.
That’s the only way to move on.
“The greatest reward in becoming a millionaire is not the amount of money that you earn. It is the kind of person that you become to become to become a millionaire.” -Jim Rohn
Choose to Become Rather Than To Simply Receive
“Successful and happy people work for learning and education. Unhappy people simply work for money.” -Robert Kiyosaki
A journalist once asked a newly-minted billionaire Henry Ford what he would do if he lost all his money.
“I would earn it all back in less than 5 years,” he replied confidently.
Most people aren’t confident they could ever “earn back” all their possessions if they lost it all. That’s because most people never learned the important lessons behind the possessions.
In the old parable The Richest Man in Babylon, we see the real truth behind a sudden, unearned influx of fortune:
“‘Fickle fate’ is a vicious goddess who brings no permanent good to anyone. On the contrary, she brings ruin to almost every man upon whom she showers unearned gold.
She makes wanton spenders who soon dissipate all they receive and are left beset by overwhelming appetites and desires they have not the ability to gratify.
Yet others whom she favors become misers and hoard their wealth, fearing to spend what they have, knowing they do not possess the ability to replace it. They further are beset by fear of robbers and doom themselves to lives of emptiness and secret misery.”
If you gave a financially unintelligent man a million dollars, he would probably lose most or all of it in a short time. Conversely, he might hoard it all away because he knows he doesn’t know how to make more.
He never learned how to manage money. Therefore, no amount of money will ever fill his void of knowledge.
The same goes for immature romantics. Many people pine over the “lack of good matches” out there. But if they’d only work on themselves, they’d realize there are countless possible partners — they’re just more mature. What emotionally healthy winner wants to date a loser?
In many ways, not getting what we want is a blessing.
Winning the lottery would actually destroy the lives of many potential winners. Most people have no idea how to handle that much money. If an overweight, unhealthy person magically got a fit, muscular body overnight, they would probably be back to their unhealthy weight in only a short time.
That’s because these individuals didn’t go through the process of learning how to wield massive success.
Many people desperately wish they could switch lives with massively successful people like Mark Zuckerberg or Evan Spiegal. What these people don’t understand is Mark Zuckerberg is an intensely disciplined individual, far more than most. So are all truly successful people.
Massive success requires extreme discipline. Amassing (and maintaining) immense wealth requires inordinate diligence and focus. Most people would be surprised to learn they probably couldn’t last one day living the life of a truly successful person.
Most people just want to receive. Gimme, gimme, gimme.
Instead, choose to become a better version of yourself in the process. Only then will you learn how to wield success without imploding.
The Process Will Turn You Into a Smart, Patient, Savvy Individual
“Depth is where the gold is buried. And you have to stay committed to something and go deep to dig it up.” Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
If you truly apply yourself to learning and becoming a better version of yourself, you’ll learn something fairly quickly:
The process sucks.
Truly committing to learning and growth requires you to constantly become a small fish in a big pond. The process forces you to be humble, open-minded, and creative. Like a marine boot camp transforms participants into incredibly strong, trained, smart individuals, so will the learning process do to you.
If you embrace the process — to become healthier, to amass fortune, to open a personal business — you will fail. You will encounter obstacle after obstacle, always attempting to make you quit.
The few people that continue on this process despite these setbacks are truly extraordinary.
The process requires you to become creative. You cannot help but become smarter, savvier, wiser, more disciplined, and more poised than you were before. If you skip a lesson, the process spits you out. You are forced to learn, or quit.
The person you become in this process — the skills you learn, the experience you gain, the insights you discover — are infinitely better than simply getting what you want immediately.
The process requires you to be smart, and knowledge is far more important than money.
You can lose all your money, fame, and wealth. But the process will teach you how to always be able to get these things back (and receive even more the next time around).
“It is not what happens that is success or failure, but what it does to the heart of a man. No man is defeated unless he is discouraged.” -Bruce Lee
Success Comes on the 42nd Try
“Most people knock on the door of their dreams once, then run away before anyone has a chance to open the door. But if you keep knocking, persistently and endlessly, eventually the door will open.” -Les Brown
Like me, many other writers have began writing diligently into apparent oblivion when, all of a sudden, they explode into recognition.
Individuals who claim these overnight successes are unfair are only deceiving themselves. Because before that 42nd article went viral, there were 41 that didn’t go anywhere.
But this is how success works.
Most people never even give themselves a chance. They don’t fail to succeed — they fail to even make an effort to succeed.
In the words of entrepreneur icon Gary Vaynerchuck on how to succeed: “It’s the patience and willingness to do 500 interviews and conference calls and meetings over coffee that never turn into anything.”
Are you willing to write 41 articles before you get noticed?
Are you willing to go to the gym 41 times before you notice significant results?
Are you willing to knock on the door of your dreams 41 times before someone answers the door?
Most people aren’t.
Most people will never be successful.
Most people just want the prize. They don’t want to take the time to learn how to get there.
But this is exactly where people miss the point. The point isn’t getting a million dollars, or finally getting 6-pack abs.
The point is becoming the person in the process.
An overweight, unhealthy eater couldn’t possibly sustain chiseled abs with their current mindset.
A financially unintelligent individual would almost certainly squander a sudden fortune.
An entry-level employee would run the company into the ground if they suddenly became the CEO.
The person you become — through years of training, learning, overcoming failures, and trying new strategies — is what is valuable.
Becoming somebody who could earn a million dollars is far better than simply inheriting the money with none of the knowledge on how to sustain that wealth.
The process is more important than the goal. The person you become an infinitely more valuable than whatever the result is.
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