I am divided on this and am a little unsettled because I can’t resolve this — for most of it, I don’t care how people evaluate me but at the same time I do evaluate myself. There are dimensions on which I have to be good in my own eyes. And I do not know if I should give them up.
 I also get upset with others when they don’t behave in ways that I can empathise with, mostly where I do not see them to be fair or responsible. How do you differentiate between being responsible and taking things seriously? I hope you are not advocating being irresponsible?